diff --git a/.idea/totpal.iml b/.idea/totpal.iml
index c617868..02d2170 100644
--- a/.idea/totpal.iml
+++ b/.idea/totpal.iml
@@ -7,7 +7,7 @@
     <content url="file://$MODULE_DIR$">
       <excludeFolder url="file://$MODULE_DIR$/venv" />
     </content>
-    <orderEntry type="jdk" jdkName="Python 3.8 (family)" jdkType="Python SDK" />
+    <orderEntry type="inheritedJdk" />
     <orderEntry type="sourceFolder" forTests="false" />
   </component>
   <component name="TemplatesService">
diff --git a/js_conversion.py b/js_conversion.py
index c932542..be42098 100644
--- a/js_conversion.py
+++ b/js_conversion.py
@@ -18,15 +18,15 @@ def get_set_attr(name, attr) -> str:
     if RelationshipDefinition in attr.__class__.__mro__:
         return f"""
     get_{name}() {{
-        return this.json.{name}            
+        return this._get_relation('{name}')            
     }}
 
     link_{name}(ref) {{
-        return this._link_property('{name}', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('{name}', ref)
     }}
     
     unlink_{name}(ref) {{
-        return this._unlink_property('{name}', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('{name}', ref)
     }}
 """
     else:
diff --git a/server/abstract_api.py b/server/abstract_api.py
index e411e7a..077be5d 100644
--- a/server/abstract_api.py
+++ b/server/abstract_api.py
@@ -153,7 +153,8 @@ def handle_object_api_request_id(cls: Type[StructuredNode], uid: str):
         obj = cls.nodes.get_or_none(uid=uid)
         if not obj:
             raise ApiError.not_found(cls, uid)
-
+        obj.delete()
+        return '', 204
 
 def handle_object_api_request_for_relation(cls: Type[StructuredNode], uid, relation, reluid):
     obj = cls.nodes.get_or_none(uid=uid)
diff --git a/server/models/models.py b/server/models/models.py
index b14bf0d..171a05f 100644
--- a/server/models/models.py
+++ b/server/models/models.py
@@ -1,5 +1,5 @@
 from neomodel import StructuredNode, StringProperty, RelationshipTo, RelationshipFrom, \
-                     UniqueIdProperty, DateProperty, StructuredRel, RelationshipManager,
+                     UniqueIdProperty, DateProperty, StructuredRel, RelationshipManager
 from neomodel.cardinality import ZeroOrOne, ZeroOrMore, One, OneOrMore
 
 
diff --git a/static/api.js b/static/api.js
index 07c43fd..58cfef4 100644
--- a/static/api.js
+++ b/static/api.js
@@ -1,5 +1,5 @@
 class StructuredNode {
-    constructor(json) {
+    constructor(json = {}) {
         if (this.constructor === StructuredNode) {
             throw new TypeError('Cannot instantiate object of abstract type StructuredNode!')
         }
@@ -10,13 +10,65 @@ class StructuredNode {
         this.hooks = []
         this.deleted = false
         this.__name__ = this.constructor.name.toLowerCase()
+        // holds a list of all relations that are already loaded
+
+        this._update_json()
+    }
+
+    _update_json(json) {
+        let old_json = this.json;
+        this.__loaded__ = [];
+        if (json) {
+            this.json = json
+        } else {
+            old_json = {}
+        }
+
+        Object.values(this.definition.rels).forEach(rel => {
+            // if we did not recieve an update for this relation, don't touch it!
+            // we might have gotten an update without relational information
+            if (this.json[rel.field] === undefined) {
+                return
+            }
+
+            this.__loaded__.push(rel.field)
+            const type = StructuredNode.classes[rel.target].klass;
+
+            if (rel.cardinality.endsWith('OrMore')) {
+                this.json[rel.field] = this.json[rel.field].map(x => new type(x))
+            } else {
+                if (this.json[rel.field] === null) {
+                    return
+                }
+                this.json[rel.field] = new type(this.json[rel.field])
+            }
+        })
+
+        Object.values(this.definition.props).forEach(prop => {
+            // no update for this prop? don't put anything in.
+            if (this.json[prop.field] === undefined || this.json[prop.field] === null)
+                return
+
+            this.json[prop.field] = PropertyConversion.deserialize(prop.type, this.json[prop.field])
+        })
+
+        // keep fields from old_json which are not defined in the new json
+        Object.keys(old_json).forEach(key => {
+            if (this.json[key] === undefined) {
+                this.json = old_json[key];
+                // keep loaded state
+                if (this.definition.rels[key]) {
+                    this.__loaded__.push(key)
+                }
+            }
+        })
     }
 
     check(name, new_value) {
         return true
     }
 
-    _link_property(name, elm) {
+    _link_relation(name, elm) {
         const relation = this.definition.rels[name]
 
         if (!relation) {
@@ -34,7 +86,7 @@ class StructuredNode {
 
             // make results available immediately
             if (relation.cardinality.endsWith('OrMore')) {
-                if (!this.json[name].contains(elm)) {
+                if (!this.json[name].filter(e => e.json.uid === elm.json.uid)) {
                     this.json[name].push(elm)
                 }
             } else {
@@ -42,30 +94,38 @@ class StructuredNode {
             }
 
             return Api.post(`/${this.__name__}/${this.json.uid}/${name}/${elm.json.uid}`).then(json => {
-                this.json = json
+                this._update_json(json)
                 this.update('link')
                 return this
             })
         }
     }
 
-    _unlink_property(name, type, elm) {
+    _unlink_relation(name, type, elm) {
         return Api.delete(`/${this.__name__}/${this.json.uid}/${name}/${elm.json.uid}`).then(json => {
-            this.json = json
+            this._update_json(json)
             this.update('link')
             return this
         })
     }
 
-    _set(name, new_val) {
-        if (this.check(name, new_val)) {
-            const def = this.definition.props[name]
+    _get_relation(name) {
+        if (this.__loaded__.indexOf(name) > -1) {
+            return Promise.resolve(this.json[name])
+        } else {
+            return this.refresh().then(elm => elm.json[name])
+        }
+    }
 
-            if (!def) {
-                throw new Error("No attribute " + name + " found!")
-            }
+    _set(name, new_val) {
+        const def = this.definition.props[name]
 
+        if (!def)
+            throw new Error("No attribute " + name + " found!")
 
+        if (this.check(def, new_val)) {
+            this.json[name] = new_val
+            this.changes[name] = PropertyConversion.serialize(def.type, new_val)
         }
     }
 
@@ -76,14 +136,15 @@ class StructuredNode {
 
         if (this.json.uid) {
             return Api.put(`/${this.__name__}/${this.json.uid}`, this.changes).then(json => {
-                this.json = json
+                this._update_json(json)
                 this.changes = {}
                 this.update('save')
                 return this
             })
         } else {
             return Api.post('/' + this.__name__, this.json).then(json => {
-                this.json = json
+                debugger;
+                this._update_json(json)
                 this.changes = {}
                 this.update('created')
                 return this
@@ -104,7 +165,7 @@ class StructuredNode {
 
     refresh() {
         return Api.get(`/${this.__name__}/${this.json.uid}`).then(json => {
-            this.json = json
+            this._update_json(json)
             this.update('refresh')
             return this
         })
diff --git a/static/models.js b/static/models.js
index 3d20b2c..4b03fb5 100644
--- a/static/models.js
+++ b/static/models.js
@@ -20,28 +20,28 @@ class Person extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_father() {
-        return this.json.father            
+        return this._get_relation('father')            
     }
 
     link_father(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('father', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('father', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_father(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('father', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('father', ref)
     }
 
 
     get_mother() {
-        return this.json.mother            
+        return this._get_relation('mother')            
     }
 
     link_mother(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('mother', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('mother', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_mother(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('mother', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('mother', ref)
     }
 
 
@@ -82,15 +82,15 @@ class Person extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_places() {
-        return this.json.places            
+        return this._get_relation('places')            
     }
 
     link_places(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('places', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('places', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_places(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('places', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('places', ref)
     }
 
 }
@@ -116,28 +116,28 @@ class Event extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_participants() {
-        return this.json.participants            
+        return this._get_relation('participants')            
     }
 
     link_participants(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('participants', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('participants', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_participants(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('participants', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('participants', ref)
     }
 
 
     get_places() {
-        return this.json.places            
+        return this._get_relation('places')            
     }
 
     link_places(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('places', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('places', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_places(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('places', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('places', ref)
     }
 
 
@@ -160,15 +160,15 @@ class Event extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_related_events() {
-        return this.json.related_events            
+        return this._get_relation('related_events')            
     }
 
     link_related_events(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('related_events', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('related_events', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_related_events(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('related_events', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('related_events', ref)
     }
 
 }
@@ -203,15 +203,15 @@ class Place extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_visitors() {
-        return this.json.visitors            
+        return this._get_relation('visitors')            
     }
 
     link_visitors(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('visitors', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('visitors', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_visitors(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('visitors', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('visitors', ref)
     }
 
 }
@@ -237,28 +237,28 @@ class Image extends StructuredNode {
 
 
     get_pictured() {
-        return this.json.pictured            
+        return this._get_relation('pictured')            
     }
 
     link_pictured(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('pictured', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('pictured', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_pictured(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('pictured', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('pictured', ref)
     }
 
 
     get_place() {
-        return this.json.place            
+        return this._get_relation('place')            
     }
 
     link_place(ref) {
-        return this._link_property('place', ref)
+        return this._link_relation('place', ref)
     }
     
     unlink_place(ref) {
-        return this._unlink_property('place', ref)
+        return this._unlink_relation('place', ref)
     }
 
 
diff --git a/templates/base.html b/templates/base.html
index 942f059..de54ac8 100644
--- a/templates/base.html
+++ b/templates/base.html
@@ -1,7 +1,7 @@
 <!DOCTYPE html>
 <html lang="en">
 <head>
-    <script src="https://cdnjs.cloudflare.com/ajax/libs/socket.io/2.3.1/socket.io.js"></script>
+    <!--<script src="https://cdnjs.cloudflare.com/ajax/libs/socket.io/2.3.1/socket.io.js"></script>-->
     <meta charset="UTF-8">
     <link rel="stylesheet" href="{{ url_for('static', filename='style.css') }}">
     <meta name="viewport" content="width=device-width, initial-scale=1.0">